Gen Z Guide to FI

I’ve been in my most nostalgic era yet. Ever since moving to California, I have been happiest. I have been here all of my adult life. Although, I have never acknowledged how different I am now compared to when I lived in Nigeria or in Canada. Oh yeah, I went to a Canadian boarding school for my second senior year of high school (yes, second. I graduated high school twice LOL before I was 17). Sheeesh…

Anyway, in the last two weeks of my hiatus from blogging, I have found old videos of me from both high schools. Yes, they are as cringe as I expected, but I think that if younger me could see current me she’d cry tears of joy. I found a collage of my 10th birthday party. As I analyzed every picture in that collage, I looked so miserable and upset. First, I’m like why was I so unhappy or ungrateful in those photos? A part of me has always felt like I was created for a great purpose and maybe I felt trapped in my bubble. Or maybe I just wanted to eat more MEAT on the day.

Today though, I can say that I am THAT BITCH. I did all the things I said I’d do and I got us (her & me) to a place where I could feel unapologetically happy with life. I made the collage of my 10 year old birthday party my lock screen photo. Now, no matter how annoyed I get about small inconveniences, I look at the pictures and they crack me the fuck up. It cheers me up because I’ve made 10 year old me proud.

I have also spent a lot of time with one of best friends (my college roommate) who is staying with me for a few days a week because she works close by. From a financial perspective, she’s paying me a quarter of my rent and it will help a lot. However, getting a roommate again made me reflect on the post I wrote about waiting for life to start. In that post, I complained about how I had too much quietness. I realized that I am so insatiable. I take things for granted. I love having my friend around and I also love my alone time. The days she’s around I enjoy vibing together and the days I have alone, I treasure them more because they aren’t unlimited. In the words of Hannah Montana, it’s the best of both worlds.

As I am about to get some new roommates hopefully in New York, I realize it will be an adjustment to live with other people full time. To adjust to other people’s schedules, cleanliness standards and personalities might be a challenge. But I will have to figure it out again. I know I’ll look back on that post from November and miss the days I could have extreme quiet in Butt Fuck, CA. So while I still have it, I will make the most of it.

When I’m in New York, I think I’ll miss my friends a lot and the access I’ve had to them. I hope our relationships are meant for a lifetime. The friendships I built in college & working in CA (aka my 1 friend you know yourself!) have been some of the longest and healthiest relationships that I’ve been in.

So I want to give a small ode to my friends. I love you guys! Thank you for letting me experience such happiness in my lifetime. I look forward to many more years of beautiful experiences and doing life together.

XOXO Gen Z Fire Baby