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Waiting for life to start?
TL:DR I’m spiraling about my future. I’ve been in waiting mode for a few weeks. I’m waiting to hear back from my schools. Waiting to quit my job. Waiting to leave Buttfuck, CA. Waiting for my future stable lover to find me in my apartment. I’ve been feeling very anxious and aware that I’m waiting…
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Celebrate your wins, bitch
I do something weird when I spend months/years trying to achieve a goal. I do nothing. Once I’ve completed the goal, I move on to the next thing without acknowledging or enjoying the fact that I have reached a fantastic goal. Why do I do this? On a recent episode of the psychology of your…
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Change.
How much venting and complaining is okay before you need to make a change? That’s a rhetorical question, but if you have an answer, hit me up. I reached a point in my life maybe around 2 years ago where I don’t want to complain about my life. When I was younger, I could blame…
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What do I value?
Some major life updates: I got promoted and I paid off half my student loan. Yee to the Haw baby. I’ve been having some nagging thoughts regarding returning to school to get my MBA. Since I joined the ChooseFI band wagon this year, I’m rethinking a lot of my previous reasons for applying to top…
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I’m gonna have a good day
There has been 1 song in the last few months that if I hear, I think “everything will be fine today”. That song is Unwritten by Natasha Bedingfield. I am unwrittenCan’t read my mindI’m undefinedI’m just beginningThe pen’s in my handEnding unplanned I don’t know what it is about the lyrics that take me outside…
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MAKE A FINANCIAL PLAN & ask God to bless it
“God will provide” isn’t a financial plan. I was venting to my therapist about financial dynamics I grew up with. To me, knowing exactly where every dime of my money is has always been important. But my parents were very different. Of course, living in a Nigeria with the responsibility of supporting several extended family…
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I cried in therapy
I’ve spent the first 6 months of therapy trying to prove to my therapist that I’m ok and wanting her to validate that I’m not a sociopath. That isn’t the point of therapy is it? Step 1 of many steps towards feeling like I’m in control of my life is setting boundaries with my parents.…
Gen Z Guide to FI 